For those of you who follow me on #instagram (if you don't you should, I'm occasionally funny), you know that I set out to do 90 days of journaling at the start of 2020. I have always been (and probably will always be) an avid journal-er.
I've had a journal for as long as I can remember, but I really got into it in #middleschool. Because you know, drama, puberty, and all that fun stuff. Journaling became the way I expressed myself. Writing down how I felt or the experiences that I was having became my saving grace, especially when I felt that I had no one to talk to. I continued journaling throughout high school, but I think in college is when my journal really became my trusty friend. My brain works like a mile a minute and I had such a tough time storing and listening to all of my thoughts and feelings at once, especially in acting class when I was learning how to navigate feelings. So, I started a journaling practice. After each performance assignment I would sit down and journal, sometimes if I was nervous I'd journal before. Answering questions like: "Why does this scare me?" "What did I learn?" " What did I love about my performance?" "What do I want to work on for next time?" I think there, in my Freshman year acting class my journal practice was born. And the self-discoveries I made along the way quickly became the best part.
Before the 2019, I saw. someone post about how they journaled every single day of 2019. I longed for a practice like that. So I set out on my #90daysofjournaling challenge. I read somewhere a long time ago that it takes 21 days to build a #habit and 90 days to build a #lifestyle. (I did try to find where I read it for reference, but #google had too many links and I struck out there) BUT, I have to say it did work.
HERE'S WHAT I LEARNED:
After journaling every day (whether it was one page, or 4) for the first two weeks, I found myself reaching for my journal without even thinking about it. Sometimes I would get into bed after a long day, realize I hadn't journaled and would spring up and journal without a second thought.
It had a great impact on my mental health, and helped me to set positive intentions for myself daily. And especially in the moments of fear, or hurt I was able to see myself from an outside eye through my journal. Which only led to discoveries and so many "AHA" moments.
Taking a photo a day and posting it on #Instagram held me accountable.
Sometimes life gets in the way. For those who were following along, there were a few weeks during the start of COVID-19 in the US & the beginning of the #stayathome order where I stopped journaling every day. TBH I really struggled. But, I kept on counting. SO--some would say I didn't fully complete my #90daysofjournaling challenge and to that I say, you're right haha. I did learn though, and I did create a journaling practice that has helped me through so many moments in the past few months.
Life gets in the way. It does like it does with anything other task, commitment, or relationship.
Sometimes you have nothing to say. And in those moments I tried to ramble, and stream of consciousness journal until I actually had nothing left to say. Sometimes frustration, or the just not wanting to journal sets in. And that's okay.
Trying to forgive myself (which if you know me, I am NOT good at). If I missed a day, or couldn't bring myself to journal. It's okay to miss things, and it's also good to know that if I missed a day or a week, when I was ready to come back to her, my journal was right there waiting for me.
Making the commitment to journal for 90 days really did create a lifestyle. Even in my dullest moments I find myself reaching for my trustworthy friend. So although my challenge is over, I will still be doing my best to journal EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
I will also be posting my favorite journal prompts. But if you need a starter: writing three things you are grateful for, "I feel tired when/ I feel alive when," or my personal favorite "what am I afraid of?"
WANNA JOURNAL WITH ME?
WELL HERE IS MY NEW CHALLENGE...
Every day this week I will post a photo in InstagramStory that says 3 things that I am grateful for, and 3 things that I am excited about for the day ahead. DO IT WITH ME! It's a great way to ease into journaling. Make sure to follow me @itsruthyfroch & to tag me in your photos and #itsruthless & I'll repost!
Journaling will always be there when you need it most, as will I!
Your 90 days start now! Who's with me?!